19 year old dating 25 year old
That way you don't force her to change her life, yet still make her aware of the concerns.Several answers already, but I want to address a couple of your concerns.You are worried about your daughter missing opportunities (travelling, studies).I started dating my wife when she was barely 17, and I was 28.I have just found out that my 17 year old daughter is going out with a local 25 year old. They haven't shared the same live experiences, they'll soon want different things, etc. I'm concerned that she'll get hurt, pregnant or that, even if they are truly in love, she'll end up growing up too quickly and miss out on things girls her age do like university, traveling, and building a career. I just think that, at their ages, they cannot possibly have anything in common.
I think the most important thing to do is not push your daughter away with any shouting matches or 'you are doing the wrong thing' this is what my mother did and although she was doing her best in a difficult situation - the shouting and threats simply pushed me away further.Not that I disagree with your answer but using the rule of thumb here may not be the best argument. If she thinks she is in love, but the subject of marriage has not come up, you still have time. If this person is going to join your family, it should be on friendly and welcoming terms.If the subject of marriage has come up, you can start bargaining of some kind.We married two years later, and had our first daughter 9 months after we married, with my wife still 19.That was 20 years ago, so I can tell you how it turned out.