8 rules for dating a single mom
Most of that dating was fairly casual, but I have been in a couple relationships—the most recent and most serious of those relationships having lasted just under two years. Or at least I realize now looking back on it just how easy it was.
You can live your life, go out on dates, and pretty much do whatever you want within the confines of the law for 26 days out of the month.
When we did find time to see each other, we were both so exhausted from work and taking care of our children, that we barely had enough energy left to sit on the couch watching Netflix until we passed out.
Needless to say, the communication and intimacy in our relationship quickly began to deteriorate.
The littlest thing that was said in passing, months before, is suddenly brought up again as a supposed glaring infraction on our part.
We want you to trust us so we aren’t always walking on eggshells.
Having recently read an article describing What A Single Mom Wants In A Boyfriend I began asking myself exactly what I was looking for in a woman with whom I choose to have a relationship. Recently, after a brutal 14-month custody battle, I was finally granted 50/50 custody of her and no longer limited to being an every-other-weekend dad.
You might think that change shouldn’t have a significant effect on the qualities I look for in a woman, but it absolutely does.
These days, mothers are almost always viewed by the courts and the general public as the most capable and nurturing parent.
We already have to do that around our ex, in order to attempt to co-parent.
You telling us that you trust us, means so much more to a dad who is constantly being ridiculed by our child’s other parent for our past infractions. There are nights that even a quickie is out of the question, because by the time homework is done and the dishwasher is loaded, there is no way in hell we are doing anything but falling into our bed and passing out.
At that point, after more than our share of failed relationships, we both genuinely thought we had found “the one.”◊♦◊The day I was granted equal custody of my daughter fell smack-dab right in the middle of our relationship, and looking back, it was a defining moment for us—the day I can pinpoint as the beginning of the end.
When I only had my daughter four days out of the month, it was easy to just plan our dates and adventures around those days.