Elder oaks dating versus hanging out
They aren’t there to constrict you or make you follow a rigid pattern; instead they aim to help you have the optimal experience for getting to know someone.
“My single young friends, we counsel you to channel your associations with the opposite sex into dating patterns that have the potential to mature into marriage, not hanging-out patterns that only have the prospect to mature into team sports like touch football,” Elder Oaks said.
She doesn’t live with same-sex attraction, but facing single life and the isolation and heartbreak that comes with it is similar in both cases.
Worry less about marriage than becoming a follower of Christ.
It takes a lot of effort, a lot more effort than I imagined when I was younger, for the gospel to actually work and bring happiness, at least in my case.
We are surrounded by perils on every side; it’s not enough to just get out alive, we need to help others along the way.
This one hit me hard, because, for most of my life, I was focused on myself and my own problems – I wanted to understand the issue of same-sex attraction, and the thought of helping others never even occurred to me.
When it finally did, and I began writing here, like the story of the woman in Japan, I’ve had powerful urges to just disappear and go on with my own life…
I’m going to write in my own thoughts along with some of my notes on the talk.
The fireside began with his wife – Kristin Oaks – who shared insights that seemed really applicable to my life.