Validating mental health
And I’m blessed to receive frequent positive feedback from family, friends, clients and readers.Hence, I surprised myself by being overjoyed with the validation that I recently received from the American Psychological Association.Elsewhere, researchers have shown a strong link between personality disorders and elevated divorce rates, with antisocial personality disorder and histrionic personality disorder having the highest rates.The authors accepted that there was insufficient research on narcissistic personality disorder to quantify its effect on divorce, although anecdotal evidence strongly suggests a link.
An extra bonus to self-praise is that you can acknowledge what you didn’t do.Depression seems to affect the divorce rate by virtue of lack of engagement in the relationship, as well as not being able to fulfill family or work expectations.Men sometimes show depression through anger, and many female clients have told me how difficult it is to live with constant irritability, hostility, and angry outbursts.On Oprah’s final episode of her wildly popular TV show, she highlighted the importance of validation: “I’ve talked to nearly 30,000 people on this show,” she said, “and all 30,000 had one thing in common. It’s getting feedback from others that “what I do and what I say matters to you. When you recognize your good traits, you are not being narcissistic. Do we always need to receive validation from others? First and foremost, you need to give it to yourself.