When to become intimate dating
These individuals set the agenda for a relationship, control it, and won't be inconvenienced by having to modify their routine or the plans they've made.
This type of emotionally unavailable person is commitment-phobic, and not relationship-oriented.
Once the relationship becomes too intimate, they'll cut and run. Look out for the person who is quick to flatter and compliment you without really knowing you. In a discussion about their past relationships, they will denigrate their former partners.
Perhaps, they are recently divorced or widowed, and legitimately not ready to get involved in an intimate relationship.
Emotionally unavailable people tend to be perfectionists, always looking for the fatal flaw or character defect that gives them permission to exit a relationship and move on.
In reality, they are debilitated by their own self-criticism and fear of being rejected.
Your requests for more time with them are met with excuses about how hard they're working or how tired they feel.
Even after a seemingly intimate weekend, they can disappear for long periods with no regular contact. It's easy for them to utter an "I love you," and then act in a way that is unloving.